Laughter punctuated the evening as Brandi helped young Krystal with her latest school project-an elevation map of the United States. 

It is easy to pick up how well the pair works together, researching and planning their topographic strategies.  More subtle is the force underlying the interaction, a force as powerful for Krystal as that shaping the American landscape-unconditional love.

Insisting the blessing goes both ways
"Brandi and Krystal are a compelling example of how lives can change through our mentor program," explained Sunna Kraushaar, Volunteers of America’s Mentor Coach Manager for the Mentoring Children of Promise program. "Brandi is like an oak tree with deep roots, as solid as a rock.  The consistency, stability and love she brings to Krystal have effected a powerful change and helped her blossom."

Brandi insists the gift comes from both directions. "Krystal and I have so much in common, including a love of the outdoors.  She cares about people, has a great sense of humor and completely lights up my life.  She really has made an impact on ME."

Starting out on Wednesday nights
Brandi and Krystal met in December 2003 through the Volunteers of America Western Washington program, which matches caring adults with children who have parents in prison.  That began their relationship, which has fostered a standing Wednesday night tradition they both look forward to every week.

"We have settled into a comfortable routine," explained Brandi. "I usually pick Krystal up and bring her to my house.   We often have lots of time to talk and laugh as we walk the dog, cook dinner, then do homework and watch TV.  We both especially enjoy making a mess in the kitchen!"

Krystal agrees wholeheartedly.  "I love walking the dog, with his big, black hairy beard.  It"s so long, I can almost braid it!"   She also talks fondly of Doug, Brandi’s husband, who is often available and involved, including teaching her how to swim as the trio prepared for a trip to Eastern Washington.    "He’s an awesome swimmer," exclaimed Krystal. "And now I can swim and dive without a life jacket!"

Underscoring the power of consistency, and taking the time to care
Kraushaar underscored the significance of these consistent, daily routines.

"Children are influenced primarily by the every day modeling around them, good or bad.  Krystal has been surrounded her whole life by a culture of substance abuse and prison.  What Doug and Brandi bring her is a chance to see what a functioning family looks like.  What unconditional love looks like. That often leads to higher self-esteem, stronger relationships, and increased interest in school.  That’s a truly meaningful thing."

Currently, Volunteers of America has identified only 59 mentor matches for 113 children enrolled in its Mentoring Children of Promise program throughout King, Kitsap, Pierce, Snohomish and Skagit Counties.  If you are interested in making a positive, lifelong impact on a child with a parent in prison, please email us or call 425-259-3191 x2312 or x2486.